You are not alone.

 

Being a mum can feel really lonely sometimes. It’s ironic; that you can spend so much time attached to a little person and still feel so alone! The monotony of day to day tasks can get really tiresome, really quickly.

It’s very important to acknowledge that whatever feelings you are having, its all a normal part of your own experience of becoming, or being a mum. Especially the negative ones. Don’t feel ashamed for having these, it’s all part of the experience, and I dare say that most mums go through a negative patch at some point.

You need to know that you are not alone when it comes to these feelings, even though it might feel like you are. So many mums have felt exactly the same way that you do now, and many more will do in the future. It’s important to know that a listening ear is always out there, whether it’s a friend, partner or a professional from an organisation like https://www.panda.org.au

You might feel like you’re alone, but please know that you’re not!

If it seems like everyone else’s baby is sleeping better, feeding better, and reaching milestones faster, you are not alone. Just know that your baby is wonderful and amazing and you MADE them!! You are the best mum for your baby, and nobody knows them, nor what they need like you do.

You are not alone. If you feel like every other mum seems to have her life together but you feel like you’re falling apart. Other mums might seem to have bodies that have bounced back after pregnancy, their hair and nails are always immaculately done, and they always seem to be bright and chirpy. Just know that appearances are often not reality, and some people are better at hiding their realities than others. You are not alone in thinking they’ve got things sorted, but remember that is simply your perception and they may be thinking the same about you!

If you are tired, stressed out, emotional and frustrated, you are not alone. You may feel like you want to burst into tears every ten seconds or perhaps tear your hair out or punch a hole in the wall. If you think you have no idea about how to do this parenting thing, you are most certainly not alone.

If you feel guilty for taking time for yourself, guilty for going back to work, or for not working, or guilty for not being 100% present for your child all the time, you are not alone.

Support is out there

If you find it hard to ask for help because you think that you should be able to do it all yourself, you are not alone. You’ve no doubt heard the saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child’. In modern society, there aren’t many mums who have a village ready to go to rely on for support. You often have to bring together your own village; of mum friends, neighbours or mums from your mother’s group. This might just be instrumental to your own mental and physical health.

It’s not only ok to ask for help, it’s imperative for your well-being, and for the well-being of your family. A happy mum makes a happy family!

If you’re having more than just a bad day, or if you want to talk to a professional, there are organisations in Australia that are set up to help you.

Pregnancy, birth and baby offer non-judgemental emotional support during pregnancy and parenting for when you’re feeling anxious or overwhelmed.

Beyond blue also offers phone line, online chat, email and forum services for whenever you feel like you need to share the load. Their website also has a whole host of information about the different developmental stages that children go through.

PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia) has been specifically set up to help mums with depression and anxiety. They offer a National helpline, online forums and support groups in your area.

You’re an amazing mum and you don’t have to be alone on this journey. Your feelings are valid and you are not alone in experiencing them. Reach out to someone today, and be kind to yourself, you made a human after all. xx

Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid To Rock Bright Activewear.

Written by Your Island Supply. 

Walk into most gyms and studios in 2018 and you’ll witness a sea of women in grey and black workout gear. And, of course, there’s nothing wrong with that! Those dark, muted shades can be super flattering and are perfect for hiding those toddler tantrum-induced food stains! But here at Your Island Supply, we believe you were born to stand out, not blend in. And if you ask us, there’s no better way to do that than with vibrant activewear that makes you feel good! Read on for 5 more reasons you should consider adding more colour to your activewear wardrobe.

1. It’s scientifically proven to boost your mood

Science has spoken, ladies! Research shows that colour can directly affect your mood. Looking at bright colours have been proven to release the feel-good hormone, dopamine, making you happier and more focused. Meanwhile, cool shades like blue have been found to increase the calming hormone, oxytocin. So, when you’re feeling down or stressed, your colourful activewear can help put you in a better mind space.

2. It motivates you

While we’re on the topic of science, research shows that bright colours can actually kickstart your motivation. Red, in particular, has been shown to create a fight or flight response in your body and get your adrenaline flowing. So, if you’re feeling unmotivated, putting on some vibrant activewear may be the push you need to get you out the door.

3. It freshens up your look

Chances are, when you work out, it’s without makeup and with your hair pulled back in a no-nonsense ponytail. After all, you’re there to sweat, not to compete in a beauty pageant! Plus, wearing makeup when you work out can lead to one of two outcomes: 1) Your mascara ends up halfway down your face, giving you that clown look or 2) it clogs your pores, leading to breakouts. That said, going barefaced can leave you looking a little washed out when combined with an all-black outfit. By adding a pop of colour, you’ll instantly look fresher and more youthful.

 4. It’s more fun!

While it may not always feel like it, working out is meant to be fun! Just as it’s important to do a type of exercise you actually enjoy, you should opt for activewear that makes you feel cute and brightens up your day! And let’s be honest, rocking bright, bold patterns is always going to be a lot more fun than wearing head-to-toe black.

5. It improves your body confidence

“But I hate my thighs/bum/calves!” you may protest. “Why on earth would I want to draw attention to them by wearing bright tights?” That’s exactly the point! While it may feel a little awkward at first, you’ll become more and more comfortable about highlighting those parts of your body you don’t love. Soon enough, you’ll start to embrace those parts and maybe even love them! Plus, our tights are so flattering, we guarantee you’ll find yourself checking out your bum in every reflective surface you pass!

7 Minute Workout

How 7 Minutes of Exercise a day can improve SAHM’s Energy, Happiness & Fitness. 

Written by Emily Smith, Founder of TUF Mum’s Mindset – http://www.tufmumsmindset.com.au

Tired? Overwhelmed? Lonely? Stressed? If you’ve ever felt this way as a stay at home mum, you are not alone.

When my hubby went back to work and left me with our newborn, I instantly felt all of the above. Tired because, well….newborn! Overwhelmed because somehow I felt like I was doing nothing, but had so much to do and no time to do it. Lonely because I was at home so much with my baby. Stressed because I didn’t think I was doing enough for my daughter’s development.

What I discovered a few months later is how EXERCISE was the answer to all of these problems. But which mum has time for a 1 hour workout? Not many……if any……

From working with mums as a Personal Trainer, and developing programs to suit their needs, I have discovered the most effective way for mums with young children to make exercise work for them.

Exercise increases adrenaline & endorphins, and therefore gives us more energy. Winning! Exercise improves your outlook on life. It gives mums a sense of achievement and a sense of self. It also burns calories – double win!!

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How to boost your fitness as a new mum without going to the gym

 

Before kids we were carefree, travelling solo and life was great & relatively easy. We had time for coffee with friends, dinner dates with our partners and even a gym routine. We think this will continue once we have kids because they’ll just fit in around us right? Or at least, that’s how the saying goes anyway.

Even the most organised of mums find it hard to get to the gym at some point. It is something that has to be planned, but you can’t really plan it because, well, kids.  You have to be super dedicated to getting there frequently.  If you don’t enjoy the hustle of just getting yourself to the gym, you can really struggle, thus potentially putting a dampener on your mood.  Continue Reading →